"You make a bigger statement by saying something then not" said a beautiful friend of mine over a very pink martini. This was girl talk belly up at a posh Uptown overpriced and too trendy rooftop. When discussing relationships and work I pondered the stance that most woman around me get, THANK GOD. The real meaning is to be heard and to make a stand, if something doesn't feel right it probably isn't, this is common sense right? Well I liked this comment, in fact it was as refreshing as my very pink and strong martini. It was black and white and after a whole lota gray I appreciate someone keeping it simple with little need for blurry. Isn't life blurry enough ? Why make relationships or friendships a maybe, a what if or a kind of.
My beautiful friend had moved for a relationship (sounds familiar) and found herself happy within her courtship but sad about her career and what she wanted (ding ding ding). In relationships perhaps compromise is key but when one is doing all the give and another is taking when does the breaking point happen? It happened with her and it happened with me. Although under different circumstances, we still found that it is just pointless not being who we are or were went to be. So we both made statements and left. JACKPOT.
But this powerful statement doesn't just need to be within friendships or relationships, I know a lot of quiet people out there. Suckling off the opinions of others or not having one's of their own. Living in fear, regret or shame of sounding stupid they make no statement for themselves. So whats better, having a disposition on matters or not knowing how to think or feel? Come on we all know someone from both sides.
Its a simple challenge for you to stop hiding in the gray within area's of your life. Say something and mean it. If a relationship or friendship is gray make it black or make it white. Some love living in the dramatic gray, its challenging and confusing and full of games.
But at the end of the day who can you really call on, a half-assed friend or someone thats your rock?
I choose rocks.
